Standing in front of the Perkins Avenue Kroger in Sandusky, Ohio, 19-year-old Jess Dutry held up a sign. "I cheated," it read. "Honk if I deserve a second chance." On the back, it read, "I honestly love him."

Over the course of 90 minutes, she told the Sandusky Register, she had gotten 57 honks. "I've had people come out of their cars and hug me, tell me 'Good luck.'"

Wednesday was the one-year anniversary with her fiance, and she was hoping that he'd take her back. He took his ring back earlier that day, when she 'fessed up to having had a fling, earlier that summer.

This Sounds Familiar

Somehow, this reminds me of several bad jokes. One was about a husband who told his friend that on the previous evening, he'd admitted to her wife that he'd been unfaithful.

Was it with that Mrs. Johnson down at the drugstore? No, he said. Was it with the widder lady running the bakery? No, he said. I betcha it was that blonde hussy across the back fence. No, he denied that as well.

So, his friend asked, did she kick you out? No, he said, and she gave me three fresh leads.

Jim, My Housemate

I shared housing while in college with Jim. He was taking an academic overload, in a pretty rough major, and didn't have much opportunity for chasing women. On the other hand, he was lonely, and he wanted a nice girl, who wasn't averse to having a physical relationship.

And it wasn't much into October before she started showing up at the house. She was nice looking, but that wasn't the important thing. She was a really nice girl to have around the place, intelligent, and made good conversation, and I envied Jim. She was really affectionate, too. It only took a couple of weeks before she started spending the night, a couple of times a week, with Jim.

So where'd you find someone like that, I asked him, no more free time than you have. Oh, he said, it was easy. I went down to the VD clinic. A lot of the girls down there aren't "loose" - but their boyfriends were attracted to a girl who was. They obviously break up with their boyfriend when he gives them VD. They're obviously not going to give anyone VD, not if they've just come off treatment. They're obviously not virgins, and since I met them in the clinic waiting room, they don't pretend otherwise. So I just sat there in the clinic waiting room and started to make conversation, and it was pretty easy to meet a variety of nice girls.

So That Leads Me To Wonder

If a lonely guy, looking for a girlfriend, were to stop and talk to Jess Dutry, would he have a chance to make her his new girlfriend? Is she even open to a guy who stops and says, "If he doesn't want you, try me. I wouldn't kick you out for that." She probably wouldn't cheat on the next boyfriend - and even if she did, that's not the end of the world for some guys. They'd rather have a girlfriend so hot that other guys had trouble staying away from her - and so hot that she has trouble saying no.

Sex, after all, isn't the be-all and end-all of a relationship. If you're thinking about marriage, you're going to be spending 168 hours a week being married to each other - and perhaps 2 hours having sex. It's more important to be able to talk, to agree about having kids (or not) and how the kids should be raised, to agree on how much time to spend making money as opposed to how much time to spend together, and to agree on how to spend the money. It's important to have similar religious values, and while some people think sexual fidelity is an important religious value, to others, it's just friendly friction, and they'd worry more about their wife playing gin rummy with someone on a regular basis than a one-time sexual fling, because the gin rummy could lead to love.

There are a lot of marriages out there, and they aren't all the same.

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